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Creative Permission: How Making Art Helps Us Process Change
Life brings change we didn't ask for, and sometimes the most important question isn't what to do next, but how to process what we're feeling. Here's how creativity can help.
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Hand holding a paintbrush on canvas with the text "What am I feeling right now? How does it want to be expressed? How does it want me to be with it?" – Healing Arts Center
What Happens To The Feelings We Push Away
Pushed-down feelings do not disappear. Avoided emotion changes form and finds another way out, usually through the body. Here is where it goes, and a six step somatic body scan you can try in a few minutes.
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Mothering Yourself: Victoria on Burnout and Self-Compassion
Burnout, mom guilt, and the pressure to do it all. Victoria joins host Keila Aldea on episode 99 of She Can Heal to talk about why healing is not one path, what self-compassion looks like when it is not toxic positivity, and the practices small enough to use in the middle of an ordinary hard day.
Alt Text: Podcast microphone on a boom stand against a pale background, representing Victoria Duarte's She Can Heal podcast interview on burnout and self-compassion from Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach.
When Positive Feels Fake
Positivity is a tool that works when the job calls for it. The trouble starts when it becomes a substitute.
Alt Text: Hand-drawn smile held in front of a real face, illustrating how forced positivity hides a feeling
The Day Fear Immobilized Me, and the Three Tools That Moved Me Through It
Fear stopped me where I stood, and I didn't talk myself out of it. Here is what I did instead, and the three body-based practices I now teach clients.
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Why Grief Shows Up in Your Body
Grief does not always look like sadness. Sometimes it settles as irritation, numbness, or a fatigue that sleep does not touch.
Alt Text: Withered rose bending on its stem, illustrating grief and loss in somatic coaching at Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach
What Helps When You Are the One Hurting
I keep a journal and rarely reread it. I found this from 2022, and what struck me was how far the exhaustion in it is from where I am now.
Alt Text: Woman writing in a journal during a somatic coaching session in Virginia Beach
When Nothing You Tried for Anxiety Worked, It Was Probably the Wrong Fit
I teach people to ask their own body what it needs, so they are not depending on me to tell them. Co-founder of Healing Arts Center.
Alt TexT: Victoria, co-founder of Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach, seated in a chair in the studio. Text reads Hello, I am Victoria, trauma informed meditation and Reiki practitioner, somatic and mindfulness coach.
You Did Not Manifest Your Trauma
Fifteen years of sitting with people in the worst weeks of their lives. Not one of them manifested it. On what happens to someone who has been told otherwise.
Alt text: Woman in a mustard sweater with her eyes closed and her arms wrapped around herself, lit from the side in a dark room
When You Fall Back Into an Old Pattern
We promise ourselves we will stop visiting a certain shape, and then we are back inside it. On rumination, where fear settles in the body, and what to meet it with.
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Why "everything happens for a reason" doesn't help, and what to say instead
You have heard it in the worst moments of your life. Here is why it lands the way it does, and four things you can say instead when you don't know what to say.
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Two people in dark coats walking side by side down an open road that climbs toward distant mountains
What I See From This Chair as a Reiki Practitioner
On grief, fear, gratitude, and the people who come back to Reiki after a difficult experience elsewhere.
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Reiki practitioner's hands resting at the head of a client lying on a treatment table at Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach
Listening to the Wisdom Within: Navigating Change Through the Body
The first thing I did this morning after brushing my teeth was lay on my yoga mat and place my hand over my heart. Here is why I start there, and what is actually happening in the body when we tell ourselves we don't know what to do.
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Woman kneeling on a wood floor unrolling a yoga mat in a plant-filled living room before a morning practice
Finding the Wall: Overcoming Blocks in Meditation
Many people feel blocked or frustrated during meditation, unsure why peace remains just out of reach. In this article, Victoria from Healing Arts Center shares practical ways to identify and overcome meditation barriers, cultivate self-compassion, and find deeper calm in your mindfulness journey.
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Why You Think About Your Feelings Instead Of Feeling Them
You can explain your patterns perfectly and still be stuck. Why analyzing pain is a way of avoiding it, and what feeling it actually looks like.
Alt Text: Quote graphic over an ocean wave reading "You're in the backseat of your own life. Fear and shame keep most of us there. Avoiding what we feel is usually about dreading what the feeling will be like." From Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach.
What Does It Mean To Receive?
Clients read the word "receive" in mindfulness books and come to my office asking what it means. Here's a somatic answer, and why receiving softens resistance.
Alt text: A person stands at the mouth of a sea cave looking out at mountains and ocean at sunset, illustrating a blog post about learning to receive from Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach.
Is Mindfulness Just Avoidance? What the Practice Actually Asks of Us
Most of us come to mindfulness hoping it will be an escape. The practice asks for the opposite, and that's exactly why it works.
Alt Text: Woman with hand on chest gazing out a window, representing mindful presence. Healing Arts Center, Virginia Beach.
Why Being Human Is Hard And What Helps
Being human is hard. We isolate when we need help and brace for storms that only exist in our heads. Here's why, plus a two-minute check-in practice that helps.
Alt text: Blue cyanotype print of white branching forms resembling nerve pathways, illustrating a blog post about why being human is hard and a two-minute nervous system check-in from Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach.
Small Permissions: How My Clients Stopped Putting Conditions on Joy
The shift almost never comes as one big decision. It comes in small permissions: the coffee while it's hot, the Sunday nap, the call that can wait.
Alt Text: A butterfly resting on wildflowers against a calm teal background, representing letting go, small permissions, and unlearning conditional joy at Healing Arts Center in Virginia Beach.
How Cold Water Calms Your Vagus Nerve (and Why It Works)
Your body has a built-in brake for stress, and you can reach it from any sink. What the vagus nerve is, why cold water activates it, and four ways to use the reset.
Alt Text: Hand under running faucet water, a vagus nerve grounding technique from Healing Arts Center, Virginia Beach.